Nigerian preacher and marriage counsellor, Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo has advised married men not to wear themselves out in an attempt to satisfy their wives, saying no man can completely please a woman.
Speaking during the Recharge Conference, the cleric urged husbands to remain responsible in their homes but cautioned against sacrificing their health or lives in the process.
“Listen to me very, very carefully. Do everything, but don’t kill yourself. Married men, hear me, I’m a woman speaking to you now. There is nobody that can please a woman,” she said.
She noted that women naturally desire improvements, citing beauty enhancements as an example.
“The Almighty God gave us nails, we will cut the nails and attach another one. God gave us eyebrows, we will shave it off and put another one. God gave us hair, we will remove it. The Almighty God cannot please us, who are you that you want to please us?” she added.
She encouraged men to focus on doing their best rather than placing excessive pressure on themselves.
“Don’t die! Do your best,” she said.
Turning to women, the bishop urged wives to pursue financial independence instead of depending entirely on their husbands for money.
“Don’t let the money you will have be only sexually transmitted money. You, have your money. So that whatever your husband gives you, it will be an addition. Esther chapter 2, they gave her her own. Where is your own now? Who says you too cannot surprise your husband with a Prado?”
Drawing from her personal experience, Felix-Adejumo said, “When my husband turned 60, I gave him 61 gifts.”
She concluded by encouraging women to develop their own sources of income, saying, “Your life should not be dependent on ‘until daddy comes’. We have left that level.”
