Every parent wants their kid to be independent, successful and intelligent. But how many of us really know how to do it with the right balance?
When a parent goes over and beyond to drive his/her child to success, spoon feeding them through every milestone, then they’re likely to raise a dependent kid.
On the contrary, a parent who believes in disciplining his/her child by setting rules and resorting to punishment, is more likely to raise an under-confident, low on self esteem kid.
That said, both of these measures can prove ineffective. If you’re someone who wants to raise successful kids, but still wants to maintain a balanced relationship with your child, here’s how you can do it.
1. Guide them, but let them take control
A parent’s job is to guide their children through every thick and thin. But spoon feeding them at every step of the way can take a negative turn.
That said, while it is great to give them a boost every now and then, you must let them take control of every situation. Assist them in making decisions but do not overshadow their choices.
2. Don’t just raise happy kids, focus on making them responsible
Raising a moral, ethical and a responsible kid should also be a priority. If you only believe in raising a happy kid, you will only think of ways to shield them and protect them from dangers.
But if you want to raise a successful kid, you’ll need them to get their hands dirty at some point. Without having any experience or knowledge about a difficult situation, they’re most likely to falter in the future. That said, let them be responsible for their actions.
3. Make sure they help you with chores without being asked
While education is of utmost importance, your kid should also be efficient in helping around the house. You can start with having them assist you initially, but over time, make them keen enough to help you without any requests.
Make them instinctive and let them realize their duties without being asked to do it.
4. Say ‘Yes’ to communication and avoid punishments
Talking to your child, communicating with them is one way you can understand your child’s needs. Rather than adhering to punishments, hear them out, guide them and let them express themselves efficiently.
Make them address their queries every step of the way, so they know if they’re going in the right direction or the wrong.